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A Special Invitation to You

A therapist’s number one job is to relieve or reduce the pain of a person, couple or family, normally though a proper assessment, a diagnosis, followed by a course of treatment.  Often, especially in the cases of abuse and trauma, those suffering carry the burden of shame.  Therapy is a form of mercy, as is forgiveness.  God is a Father first, but I also think of Him as a Divine Therapist, whose primary intervention is mercy, which the psalmist tells us “endures forever.”
What is mercy?  Mercy is the goodness of God, His free act of choosing persons to receive His grace, leading those persons to Him.
When one bestows mercy upon another, they spare them a consequence of misfortunes that otherwise would have come upon them.  These may be consequences they had coming, such as embarrassments, humiliations or the baggage of emotional pain owing to shaming they did not deserve, even errors they brought upon themselves.  These are forgiven and forgotten.
The guilt which ordinarily would have befallen them is removed when mercy is given.  Such healing can be delivered by just listening compassionately with all of your attention, focused only on that person.
The truly merciful act signifies a virtual nullification of that which has shamed someone.  “Forget about it, it’s okay,” is heard someplace in the wounded heart of that individual.
This is what they hear:  Don’t worry about it.  You’re fine.  You’re okay.
God sends mercy and grace directly or indirectly, through anyone, you or me.  Consider, then, why should God, omnipotent and entirely self-sufficient, invite someone into the heartbeat of his being, literally the center of his heart?  After all, God is the living source of life itself, the totality of all that is pure and holy, who needs nothing outside of Himself, yet chooses to create beings in His image.
There can be only one explanation.  Love.  He gets absolutely nothing for His efforts except the joy that every giver gets, which is the joy of expressing their love.
God’s Mercy imbues a special kind of meaning to anything.  In fact, in ordinary human experience, when we choose to inject the name “God” into a story or event, it elevates it to the extraordinary.  “God, I can’t believe that actually happened to you!” is exclaimed without consciously thinking about God, but nonetheless God belongs in it somehow because there’s something mysteriously wonderful or amazing about it.
You may have tossed God out of your life, either recently or a long time past.  Though you’ve been disappointed by something you feel He’s done or has failed to do for you,  give Him another chance.  He gave me many, many chances to rise above my shame, and He will do that for you, too, if you ask Him.

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About Ron Houssaye

I was born in San Francisco and started publishing poems in small press in 1971. I published a short story, "The Meeting," in the anthology, "Across the Generations," in the eighties. I continued to write poetry, essays and even finished a novel. I earned a bachelor's degree in journalism in 1979, became a reporter for a weekly, found it paid poorly, so left professional journalism to teach. I taught high school English, social sciences and drama until 1997. I went on to earn a master's degree in counseling in 1998. This opened the door for a new career as a licensed professional therapist, specializing in family therapy and the treatment of addiction. I do family, group and individual therapy, whatever is needed within my scope of practice. I began this blog in 2017 and work as a psychotherapist in Wisconsin. I feel I'm called to help people who want to break free of their addictions and assist families of addiction however I can, through speaking, giving workshops, writing and counseling.
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